there is more to life than this...{RIP}

 

Sometimes they pass frail, and thin, and sometimes they pass too slowly, or too quickly. Sometimes it's tragic or uncertain and sometimes it's confusing beacuse you were just talking to them. Sometimes they die without a choice and other times they did it themselves which is the saddest part. However it happens, however we lose our friends, its sad. It’s unthinkable. It never ever gets easier…and we’re far too young to have this happen.

But is there anything we can do about it? No.
Is there anything we can learn from it? Maybe.. I think so...

The trouble is, you think you have time. See, sitting here today marks nearly 5 years since high school graduation .....and I’m writing a blog post on making the most of a friend’s death. 5 years ago, I was trying to hitchhike it fullspeed to a city far, far away from here so I could be "independent", and live life to the fullest. The fact that life ends before we want it too is sad, It's sad mostly beacuse so many of us today are wasting the life we have, and the people who took full advantage of their life have no choice anymore.

This last weekend, it’s broken my heart, especially Jeff's (and literally thousands of other hearts from NV to Cali), to hear about the tragic death of Evan Plunkett. The media has portrayed just a glimpse of the affect he had on our world. His story repeats on the news, as so many of us stay glued to our cellphones waiting for the most recent update on justice and putting him to rest, and we've watched as his name has become a household name.

  

Evan was robbed out of life way too early, but I think that Evan’s purpose was so much bigger than here in the physical world. Evan had a smile that lit up the room and I think everyone remembers him most importantly for his motivation, his inspiration to do what you want and to do what you love. This is the inspiration we all should have, and unfortunately the person who had it, doesn’t get to do that here with us anymore.

 

Grief is the price we pay for love. I think too many times Death passes us by without giving us the opportunity to grow and learn. For the last few years, I’ve been on the hell bent journey to discover me as a person, mama and all the other titles I rock along with the finding the real purpose we are here. The last book I read New York best selling   There’s More to Life than This by Theresa Caputo, I finished just in time. I think it was a day before Evan’s murder that I finished her book, and I am positive it changed my life... it prepared me for situations like this.

In Caputo’s book, she addresses her experiences with the dead and how talking with Spirit has helped her understand our purpose in life. Here are some of the most important lessons she shared:

1.      The best things can’t be seen or touched, but only felt with the heart.

2.  Negative attracts negative. Negative energy and negative thoughts bring negativity into your life.

3.      Every soul has a journey. 

4.     When we die, it’s predetermined. Not how we die, but just when.

5.        The most important thing we can do here is learn lessons. Lessons help our souls grow, and regardless of the age you die; it’s the amount of growth we did here in the physical world that matters to our Creator.

My hope for all of us, as Evan’s friends, is that we become the best version of ourselves.  That we pursue our dreams using the great motivation and inspiration that Evan always talked about, and that we put all of our energy into only good things. We all have our own religious belief, but even if you don't believe in a God; as people, there is some underlying understanding that doing good things will bring good things to you, karma, right? So to whomever you pray too, whatever you believe, and in Evan’s legacy, let’s be a little bit nicer, care a little bit more, work a little bit harder and be a lot more grateful than we just were yesterday. At least that is what Jeff and I plan to do!


RIP Evan Plunkett. Thank you for reminding me to be the best version of me!